Learn More About Me
Passionate Coaching Professional
A fully certified coach supporting leaders, especially women, to make courageous change happen in their life and business. I love digging into conversation, finding the truth and releasing the extra-ordinary potential of people. I ask silly questions, collect interesting answers and use them to open what's possible.
The Story Of Me
Why do I do this?
I grew up in London, amongst a large loving family, with the opportunity to do anything. At 27 years old I'd achieved all the conventional measures of a "very successful" life - well travelled, great job, nice apartment, lovely boyfriend - until then my only failure had been my driving test (twice). When I failed to resuscitate my close friend, Tim, I learnt a painful lesson on the true value of life. Life is short. Too short to waste. That life event still inspires me to live fully awake in my skin, every day, including today.
After a difficult year of anxiety related issues, I switched from a corporate environment to an entrepreneurial business, put my sales and marketing skills behind ethical brands, and took time out for unique adventures along the way. I successfully climbed the ladder to a Senior level and loved my work. I was employed by a great company, they recognised my contribution and wanted to keep me, but they would not promote me on a part-time contract. I felt forced to choose between my work and family values.
I looked around for advice and found that every mother I knew was struggling with the same question, “How can I be a connected parent and have a meaningful career?” While working fathers seemed oblivious to it being a challenge. The wider narrative was asking, “How can women have it all?” which made me want to scream, “What nonsense! I don’t want it all! I just want to be a happy human, who enjoys working.”
We had 2 children within 2 years. After several years maternity leave and working part-time I knew parenting more than 3 days a week made me miserable – I love working in partnerships, intelligent conversation, creating new things and following my curiosity. I did not want to “give up” and stay at home, but I could not "lean in" any more than I was. I was deeply stuck.
The energy of trying to be the perfect working mother exhausted me, I felt permanently stressed and anxious about everything. When I miscarried twice I decided it couldn't go on. I'd been into this dark hole before. I had to take action.
Every inspirational professional woman I met seemed to have made choices that didn't suit me, and every wonderful mother I emulated had sacrificed her professional position more than I was willing to. I couldn’t find any role models with answers, so I began to research solutions for myself.
It became obvious that the opportunities for working parents are still decades behind where they need to be. It's not just about women, it's about helping whole families to thrive from this generation onwards. In 2013, as I sat Googling gender equality reports with one hand and spoon-feeding vegetable puree into my daughter with the other, I promised her, “I will not watch this repeat for one more generation. I commit my working life to make your working life different.”
And here I am. Still doing my best.
I recruited the help of a coach. She brought me back to life in my skin. I discovered the passion and purpose I wanted to live by as a working parent, and she helped me to make choices to intentionally live towards it. I invited my husband to join me on the adventure and we re-shaped how we saw our responsibilities. In 2015 I quit my interesting job, left my incredible UK friends and family, relocated our two young children to America and started a consultancy business. I began writing a novel, retrained as a women’s leadership coach and grew a third child. We now live back in the UK and continue to thrive.
I am still on that indirect, creative journey in service of women’s growth. I don't think every one needs to leave the corporate world to overcome these challenges (like I did). Quite the opposite. I'd like to help everyone change their environment so it supports them. How we do that is unique to each of us. I know now that every choice I make is determined by the value it brings to our life - mine, my family and our world. My working life at the moment is no easier than it was before I redesigned my life, but it’s mine to play with, which makes it a lot more fun and deeply satisfying.
My hope is that by seeing my husband and I make choices that balance across the whole of our lives, our 3 children will learn how to do it for themselves. In our house we share our dreams, acknowledge our problems, talk about our emotions and try to split our responsibilities as equally as possible. Most days it works, some days it doesn't. Creating time for myself, my husband, our kids, our work and our relationship is all part of life. I know the challenges involved in making a whole family happy, whilst also paying the bills.
When I’m not talking to brilliant women or engaging with my children, I continue my personal development. Some days I do yoga, or meditate. I enjoy large mugs of tea with marmalade on toast. I dance like a giraffe or sing loudly in my kitchen. I love finding new things to think about because I’m no good at small talk. I'm terrible at cooking and housework. If you're lucky you’ll find me hiking in the forest, camping with my kids or on a new adventure.
So that's why I do this.